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“Y’know, you can’t please all the people all the time. And last night, all those people were at my show.”

Mitch Hedberg

This is the true story... of seven billion strangers... picked to live on a together and have their lives online... to find out what happens... when people stop being polite... and start getting real.



Haters gonna hate. These days, it seems haters are the price of admission when you create something or do anything that puts yourself “out there.” &yet has had some experience in this area. And so the saying goes, haters gonna hate, shakers gonna shake, etc. But when you’re a team of “People First” people, is there an alternative way of handling harsh criticism other than “don’t feed the trolls?”

It’s a subject we’ve discussed at great length, and researching around the web for this dispatch, Jenn found that the most visible people talking about the subject suggested responding with kindness, time and time again. Facing vitriol with sincerity is one of the hardest “taking the high road” paths one can take, but could there be something valuable in responding only to the human in the hater?

Or freeing, even?


Find Your Rat People

Paul Jarvis

Paul has the whole “separating the wheat from the chaff” thing down in this post about finding people who are thrilled about what thrills you. And don’t hate on the rats.


If You Don't Have Anything Nice to Say, SAY IT IN ALL CAPS

This American Life

In this podcast, Ira Glass and co. ask the question, what happens when the internet turns on you? Or more interestingly, what happens when your worst hater contacts you to apologize?


Haters and Critics

James Clear

James delivers one  of the best posts on the internet about how to handle criticism, from the very worst of your terrible haters to the most cruel – the one inside your mind.


Over to you

Things wise and wonderful


Recently our &you pal, Joe Cardillo introduced us to pioneer and animated gif model, Olia Lialina, saying “She does some really interesting work on art / design / UX and understanding cultural / digital / physical spaces as they grow and decay.”


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What’s your hack for dealing with haters? Let us know and we'll share it in a future dispatch (just reply to this email).

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