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Comforting Families after Losing a Child with Down Syndrome

 

On October 15, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Daywe released Coping with Loss: Down Syndrome as a free, online book by Stephanie Hall Meredith and Nancy McCrea Iannone to offer support to families who have experienced a miscarriage or lost a baby or child with Down syndrome. Because most people with Down syndrome live long lives, the loss can be particularly isolating and devastating. These parents tend to describe their loss in terms of losing their child, their community, and their identity, and they often deal with insensitive comments about the diagnosis or health issues while coping with grief. 

So we created this book to help them find comfort and support, and we hope this resource gives Down syndrome organizational leaders a way to reach out during a time of need. The book covers topics like coping with grief; dealing with comments and the practicalities of loss; helping siblings cope; and finding resources. This book also features the stories and photos of families who have experienced the loss of a child with Down syndrome and who provide their personal insight.

 
 

9 Ways to Support a Family after Loss

Local Down syndrome organizations might also want to do the following to support families who have lost a child: 

  1. Give opportunities for memorial teams or acknowledge those who have passed at their annual walk.
  2. Create programs to send memorial gifts, like wind chimes or pendants, to families who lose a child.
  3. Create baskets with books about grief or loss like this one and restaurant gift cards. 
  4. Offer lifetime memorial memberships to families who have lost a child so that they continue receiving newsletters, invitations, etc., if they want them.
  5. Provide a general acknowledgement in printed and online/emailed newsletters for families who have lost loved ones.
  6. Offer support groups for those who have experienced loss or set up a mentor program.
  7. Create a referral list for local professional counselors who are experienced with families who have lost a child with Down syndrome.
  8. Attend memorial services when invited or when you receive notification.
  9. Offer the family reprints of any photos you may have of the child.

 

 
 

Family Stories

From Landon's Mom, Desiree:

Our local Down syndrome community provided support while we were pregnant with our son and have continued to embrace us a few years later. As with any situation, it can be a bit awkward to share with new members why we are present for group activities when we are not actively raising a child who has Down syndrome, but those individuals respond with incredible empathy and understanding each time. I appreciate that being a part of the local community provides opportunities for our children to spend time with children who have Down syndrome. Our children are missing out on a wonderful experience by not having their brother to grow with and learn from. This community provides them with a hint of that experience.

 
 

Can I get a printed copy?

For the next 4-6 months, we will be offering only a digital version of this book. We anticipate that we will get additional input from families as the book is more widely available, and we want to be able to respond to their suggestions before printing. So, if you would like a printed copy in the meantime, you are permitted to print a copy for anyone who might need it.