The must haves – celebrants and ceremonies
The approved celebrant must take an active role by officiating over the legal aspects of the ceremony.
The celebrant must formally identify the couple, ensuring that the people standing in front of them at the wedding are the same people named on the marriage licence.
The marriage ceremony must be in Aotearoa, which includes the Ross Dependency and up to our territorial boundary.
The couple must say their
vows in front of an approved celebrant and before at least two other witnesses.
The full names of the couple as written on the marriage licence must be used at some point during the ceremony proceedings. Abbreviations and nicknames can be
used in other parts of the ceremony.
Couples can write their own vows as long as they say to each other “I take you [partner’s name], to be my legal [wife/husband/partner]” or something similar during the ceremony. The couple should say the words to each other rather than answering a question you ask — although the marriage or civil union is still valid if you have asked the couple a question.
After you have married the couple and the Copy of Particulars of Marriage are fully completed (date, a specific place, couples signed, witnesses signed and addresses, celebrants name and signed and registration number/denomination) email a scan or photo to bdmtoregister@dia.govt.nz. As we've previously mentioned in earlier newsletters, a new civil registration system is coming in 2024 that will change the way you notify us of this - we will provide more detail on how this change affects you later in the year.
Retain the Copy of Particulars of Marriage for 4 weeks in case the photo or scan needs to be redone. After four weeks the Copy of Particulars must be destroyed and the email deleted.
Cannot use Zoom/Skype to marry a couple
Under the Marriage Act, a marriage
can’t occur virtually i.e. you cannot use video conferencing software like Zoom, Skype etc. The couple, celebrant and two witnesses must be physically present in the same place - these five people must be physically present, in-person, at the geographical place when the couple say their vows to each other.