Decades after the fact, my first Valentine’s Day rejection still burns like a cold dagger to the heart. It was Grade 5 and in those days, students exchanged Valentine’s Day cards with each other. (Does that still happen, even in pre-pandemic times?) I had a crush on a girl named Cheryl. In my best handwriting, I signed my name to a Peanuts valentine’s card and stuck it in the box hanging on her desk. After school, Cheryl was outside waiting for me. In a moment eerily familiar to the famous Simpson’s scene when Lisa literally breaks Ralph Wiggum’s heart, Cheryl thrust out her hand, threw my valentine back at me and loudly announced she never wanted to see me again. As the Nazareth song goes, Love Hurts.

It’s a different Valentine’s Day this year. Some are separated from loved ones because of the pandemic lockdowns. Others have maybe spent too much time with their partners as social bubbles become increasingly claustrophobic. Hopefully you don’t fall into either camp, but regardless of your situation, I’ve assembled some good reads about Valentine’s Day from across the global network of The Conversation. While not as sweet as candy or as fragrant as a bouquet of roses, feel free to share these with the one you love. And the weekend is also an excellent time to catch up on the latest episodes of our new podcasts, Don’t Call Me Resilient and The Weekly.

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Valentine's Weekend Reads

Why you shouldn’t eat out for Valentine’s Day: An epidemiologist explains a few facts of life

Ryan Malosh, University of Michigan

What is Valentine's Day without a romantic dinner out? It could be a COVID-19 catastrophe. Better to stay home and order in, writes an epidemiologist.

Polyamorous relationships under severe strain during the pandemic

Riki Thompson, University of Washington

For single people, finding at least one partner has been hard enough. But for those used to juggling multiple relationships, the pandemic has forced them to rethink dating altogether.

Valentine’s Day: COVID-19 wilted the flower industry, but sustainability still a thorny issue

Paul D. Larson, University of Manitoba

After a withered 2020 due to COVID-19, the flower industry is hoping to blossom. The industry, which remains far from sustainable, remains a multi-billion dollar operation.

‘Relationship glasses’ shape how we see the good, the bad and the ugly in romantic partners

Jesse Lee Wilde, Western University; David J. A. Dozois, Western University

People create beliefs about their romantic partner that affect how they respond to them and interpret their behaviour. These beliefs can act as rose-tinted glasses, or as a darker lens.

For the birds? Hardly! Valentine’s Day was reimagined by chivalrous medieval poets for all to enjoy, respectfully

Jennifer Wollock, Texas A&M University

The view of Valentine's Day as a day for lovers can be traced back to two medieval poets who stood up for romance and the freedom to choose.

‘I die where I cling’: garters and ‘busks’ inscribed with love notes were the sexy lingerie of the past

Sarah Bendall, Australian Catholic University

The busk was a long piece of wood, metal or whalebone, stitched into fabric and inscribed with intimate words of love. Garters, too, often carried messages and were charged with erotic connotations.

Megan Gail Coles’s novel teaches us that love means we #BelieveWomen

Linda M. Morra, Bishop's University

The novel is timely in light of the fact that, increasingly, readers are invited to consider what responsibilities they need to assume in the face of women's disclosures about their life stories.

Handwritten valentines create a legacy of love and literacy

Hetty Roessingh, University of Calgary

Handwritten letters enhance relationships among people of all ages, and help children become empowered and inspired through the power of the pen.

Exercise your way to a better relationship

Scott Lear, Simon Fraser University

In addition to its health and fitness benefits, exercise can also give your relationship a boost – especially if you exercise together.

The smelly truth about romantic relationships and health

Marlise Hofer, University of British Columbia; Frances Chen, University of British Columbia

Smelling a romantic partner's clothing is common behaviour, and research shows that it may improve sleep quality, and ease stress levels.

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