Release:
January 5, 2022

Women of NATE Today Newsletter
Volume 4, Issue 1

READY. SET. GO….FORTH AND BE YOUR BEST SELF

With 2022 upon us, it is the typical and most common time to set goals. I’m not talking about New Year’s resolutions that often get lost after the magic of the holiday wanes. I read it on the internet, so it must be true 😉, that 54% of people have already quit keeping their resolutions after six months. Setting goals is critical in the journey of becoming your best self.  

“If you don’t know where you are going, you will probably end up somewhere else.”
-          Lawrence J. Peter

Are you READY? Let’s get SET.  

Here are a few ideas on how to set goals.

·         Make them S-M-A-R-T. I know this is not a new term. But is a reminder they need to be Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Timebound.

·         Document your progress so you see where you started, how far you have come and confirm you did not end up in a place you did not intend to be.

·         Create a combination of short-term and long-term goals. The short-term goals can provide a feeling of accomplishment faster, which can provide the motivation to stay focused on the longer-term goals. 

·         If you are having a difficult time trying to figure out what goals you should set for yourself, consider tapping into social media, (e.g., Pinterest or Instagram). Listen to podcasts. Organize a vision board party to identify and document your high-level goals and then make them S-M-A-R-T. You want your goals to be personal to you. But sometimes some external resources can be helpful.

·         Consider becoming a mentee or mentor as part of NATE’s Mentorship Program. The relationship you build can also help you define and achieve goals. 

-          Some very broad categories to generate ideas are: Family Life/Professional Life/Personal (Physical, Mental, Spiritual, Financial)/Experiences (like attending NATE UNITE 2022 and the WON 2022 Leadership Summit).

-          If you are comfortable, share your goals with others. Having a support system is considered one of the most highly effective success factors for staying on track. Your people can help you stay accountable. Plus, it is always nice to have an excuse to get together for coffee or drinks, “for the purpose of discussing your progress”, of course. 

-          Keep them visible. Do not let out of sight lead to out of mind.  

-          And one important thing, if you have a setback or do not fully achieve the goal(s), DO NOT GIVE UP! Identify why it happened and put steps in place to stay on track in the future. And whatever you do, please DO NOT think of it as a failed attempt. Chances are you have learned something about yourself along the way, and that is still progress.

GO….FORTH AND BE YOUR BEST SELF

With every new year, I look forward to the future with anticipation of what is to be. I know I will not be perfect. I probably will not achieve everything I set out to achieve. But I will do my best. I will make progress. I will be kind. And I will treat others the way I want to be treated. Hopefully, this has helped you to get READY, SET and GO on to be your best self in the New Year.  

WON Profile: Abby Nace

Where will you find the Women of NATE?

Take Women of NATE with you!

Are you traveling for work or taking a leisure vacation? Take a creative photo holding a Women of NATE (WON) logo in front of a landmark that lets us know where you are. 

The NATE Team participated in the Watertown Chamber of Commerce Ugly Sweater Contest in Watertown, South Dakota.

Upcoming Events

Anonymous Donor Doubles WON Education Scholarships

(Watertown, South Dakota) - Women of NATE (WON) is excited to announce that due to a generous contribution from an anonymous donor, there will be four separate scholarships valued at $1,000 each awarded to four different applicants.

The WON Education Scholarship was designed to encourage and inspire more women to enter the tower and communications infrastructure construction, service and maintenance industries.

WON Chairwoman Andy Page Lee of Lee Antenna & Line Service, Inc. stated, “One of the goals of the Women of NATE is to help empower women to heightened greatness. We ask that you share this information with students in your family, your coworkers and your colleagues. We are very excited to support four women with their educational goals.”

Application documents must be received in the NATE office by January 20, 2022. In addition to a one-page application form, applicants must provide an essay describing how the WON Education Scholarship will help them achieve their goals, a high school transcript, a letter of acceptance from the college or technical school the applicant will be or is attending, and a letter of nomination from a current NATE member company.

To find out more about the WON Education Scholarship, please visit https://natehome.com/women-of-nate/won-education-scholarship/. Award recipients will be announced on February 21, 2022 in conjunction with the annual NATE UNITE 2022 event in Las Vegas, Nevada.

Recent Event Highlights

(Above) Women of NATE Committee members conducted a Zoom call in December 2021 gearing up for the holidays and NATE UNITE 2022.

(Above) Listen to Heather Gastelum, Senior Manager for National Site Safety at T-Mobile, NATE WIN Liaison for Washington, and Women of NATE Committee Member talk about tower safety on the 5G Talent Talk podcast. 

(Above) MILLERCO ladies at their annual company meeting December 2021. (Left to Right) Morgan Luke, Amanda Stegall, Mackenzie Simmons, Jordyn M. Ladner, Tonia Miller, Amanda McGuire, Nicole Deas and Amy McGoey.

When Gaslighting at Work has you Doubting, How to Reclaim your Calm 

When gaslighting at work has you doubting, how to reclaim your calm

What is gaslighting?

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation. The gaslighter (the person doing the gaslighting) manipulates the gaslightee (the person being gaslighted) in a way that forces them to question their own version of events and even their own sanity. 

Where did the term "gaslight" come from?

The word comes from a 1938 play called “Gaslight,” in which the protagonist’s husband gradually convinces her that she’s going crazy. 

What is a gaslighter personality?

Gaslighting seems to come more naturally to some people than others. In fact, not all gaslighters are aware of what they are doing, although the term is used primarily when someone is consciously manipulating a friend, family member, or coworker.

For many, it’s bad behavior that has developed over time and across various interpersonal relationships. 

Still, gaslighters tend to share some common characteristics:

• Highly-manipulative
• A low sense of self-worth or self-esteem, which they bolster by bringing others down
• Controlling to a point where they don’t respond well when they don’t have power
• Narcissistic tendencies (sometimes seen at work as toxic leadership)  

It can sometimes be tough to spot a gaslighter. Some are charismatic and charming, such that others don’t even realize that they are being gaslighted, for a while. Others are mysterious and hard to read.

So, how can you tell if you’re being gaslighted in a work environment? 

Let’s review six signs that might indicate you are being gaslighted at work:

1. You hear persistent negative accounts of your performance

2. The person you think is gaslighting you keeps making negative public comments

3. You continue to hear negative gossip about yourself

4. You find yourself continually doubting your perception of reality

5. The person who is exhibiting gaslighting behavior belittles your efforts

6. You’re being excluded from professional activities you believe you should be involved in

Gaslighting takes many forms. Visit https://www.betterup.com/blog/gaslighting-at-work  to read the full article with further gaslighting examples and discover suggestions for dealing with gaslighting at work. ​